What To Do W/ Her?? HELP!!!!?

Sounds to me that she really is messed up from everything. I'm a woman and when woman's heart gets wounded and takes a cut, it can take awhile to recover. Seeing as how it was a 9 year relationship, its gonna take her alot of time..Women dont bounce back as quickly as men. Men after a breakup will immediately be back out playing the field. But for a woman, another man isnt gonna help her fix her problem. She needs to work it out on her own. I would suggest therapy for her or self help books. It helped me alot when I was in an abusive relationship. Not sure the extent of her last relationship but im sure those would help. Im actually positive if she is commited enough and remains open minded about it. Women are easier to encourage to do those type of things than a man so try it, but approach it in a way as to not make her feel like she is broken and make her feel bad about herself..just tell her its completely normal. Anyways, that is what i did and now here i am today a year later and in love with a really great guy and all my wounds are patched up and i have a full heart to give to my guy..isnt that what you want? a full heart, not just part of one like she's giving you?...anyways it sounded like she was moving at a comfortable pace and then you put pressure on her and scared her away. if you dont put pressure on someone..they will usually come around faster....because it will be subconsciously....good luck!